The Work/Life Balance is a False Dichotomy

Work-Life Balance
If you’re working in misery with your eye constantly on the clock and the weekend, you need to re-assess your priorities in life.

 

Work and Life are not meant to be separate. They are linked.

 

If you set work and life against each other as a never-ending battle as your life goes on, you end up with the thought that you’re either working too much and living too little or the other way round.  The term “work-life balance” itself diminishes our ability to see that work can be a very rewarding part of a person’s life and is by its nature incredibly personal.

 

Separating these two aspects of your life is impossible and as soon as you see that, you’ll be able to balance the two a little better.

 

Aim to do work you value and you love and enjoy instead of constantly trying to escape.  Find things to run toward.

Work is Life

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If I Had To Do It All Again…

I’ve been in countless situations like it, especially in a work context. The condescending tone, remark, jibe at me communicating their superiority with a little dig at my work or clothes or music choices (yeah, even that). It was hard at first, but I think I got used to it. I had come to the realisation like so many other people of colour that we have to work twice as hard to get half as far because this is “their” world. It’s stifling and disheartening, your ideas are overlooked or repeated by someone with a lighter skin tone before they’re taken onboard. It’s all these little things that irritate, and after a long enough time it leaves its mark, psychologically.

It takes a while to break out of it. You have to sit with yourself and just shovel through all these feelings and thoughts and beliefs and values to just remember, at a basic level, who you are and what you stand for and why the things they’ve said or done to you are bullshit. You have to figure out what to do next, because you can’t carry on like that… who in their right mind would choose to carry on in that context? After that it just becomes clear what you need to do, what you need to change.

You see, it isn’t hard to do the right thing, it’s hard knowing what the right thing is. But, once you know what the right thing to do is… it’s hard not to do it. It will burrow a hole in your mind, day by day, until you do something about it.

I am thankful I am where I am now. With the clarity I have, the place I’m at, the work I’m doing, the people who are around me. But it took a hard journey to get here. But nothing worth having ever comes easy and even though it was so hard, I’d do it again. I treasure the journey as much as the destination. I wouldn’t be who I am without it. I’d be less… me.

And, because life is what it is, it’s probably not the end. Good and Bad come in waves. There’s always tests which make you pit your values and grit against the world. They’re there to see how you react, respond… What do you do? What do you give up? What do you protect?

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