There’s only one thing people that need to let go hate to hear – “Just let it go.” As if its so freakin’ easy. Everybody spouts these words, but nobody explains how and nobody can give you a practical answer as to “How the hell do I do that, exactly?”
“Let Go? What the Hell do you even mean?”
So I’m going to take a stab at giving you practical advice at getting this done. Well, I’ll attempt it and I would appreciate feedback if it makes sense or resonates with you.
First, let’s understand what exactly is happening. This is a battle happening in your head. It’s not an active, physical thing where you are literally holding on to something and can easily do something like, let go.
It’s a matter of FOCUS.
When we talk about holding on to something, we mean that we are either focusing on a past event, like an argument or fight we had with someone, some traumatic event we’ve lived through or whatever. On the other hand, we could also be holding onto the future by having some set of expectations that we want to happen before we can move on with our lives i.e. “If only I had this amount of money, this job, whatever… things would be okay and I’ll be happy.” or it could be a worry of some event about to take place.
Note, in both of these instances you’re focusing either on the past or the future.
So, a practical step you can take is to be present and focus on the here and now. Use meditation, be mindful of your surroundings, of yourself, your current situation. Focus on what you can do at this exact moment. By switching your focus away from the trauma of the past or the worries of the future you will automatically let go, because right here and now there is nothing to hold on to. You are in control.
I really hope that helped 🙂