(Please excuse the rampant Profanity in this post, I really , Really need to vent.)
I can’t wait to get out of this God Forsaken place. All Durban has is the beach. If it didn’t have that it would be the ultimate hell hole. There is a reason why it’s only good for holidays, especially if you’re an indian. The things I have to endure in this place crawls under my skin. Constant Gossip, Racism, Classism, Caste Systems… FUCK! I am so sick of it. Every single indian female I run into (okay maybe not ALL) has this insatiable desire to know every little detail about my life… FUCK OFF! I swear I’m at my wits end… apart from friends like MJ and some others which make this ride in Durban just a little bit less tedious, this place is… oh fuck it.
I’ve had old indian women confess… “I know I’m racist, but that’s just the way it is…”, I’ve had constant questioning of mundane things like.. “Where you going? Where you went? What you did there? why?” WTF? like it’s anybody’s fucking business. I once looked dead straight at one aunty and said “Naah, I’m just tired from the strip club last night, and tonight we’re hitting the entire strip on point road.” Now, the thing is , these aunties know me too well to know that I’d never actually do any of those things… so I think they got the sarcastic message… “I don’t want to answer you, Leave me the fuck alone.”
Recently, I actually felt depressed, I mean seriously depressed… and I only realised this after the fact… I have never been depressed in my life, infact, my philosophy on life is that a Muslim can never be depressed (think about it). I can only conclude that this place (said with all the gusto of Agent Smith from the Matrix)… I feel infected by it.
Between Racists, Classists, Bigots, Hypocrites and just plain fucking idiots. I wanna go home :( Now try and ask me why the fuck I miss Johannesburg so much. You know why.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr…….
Peace, (Ironic, I know…)
M.
UPDATE: Continuation at F**k Indian Durban, Part 2
ouch….i’d suggest something like avoiding people that irritate you – but obviously you can’t hide from the world.
maybe you should just try to avoid getting into conversations you think could end up with these irritation factors.
i mean – ok, we shouldn’t be rude – of course. but, if this is affecting you that much, just find a polite way of excusing yourself from whatever situation is gonna anger you, and walk away.
you have to deal with people – and its a test; how you deal with those who upset or irritate you. so, just stop and think for a while, how you’re going to pass that test.
sounds crazy, i know, to be ‘planning your reaction’ – but in extreme cases (like this sounds), a little strategy could go a long way :)
Naah – dont go all sweet – i say Fuck anyone who upsets you! thanks for making my day though – then again – i’m easily pleased. The Caste system is utter shit- and i’m not saying this just because i’m an Urdu speaking boy who always gets trampled by the ‘man’ or whatever, just because its so fucken stupid! sometimes it makes me want to marry out of my caste just to spite my mother in law! but lucky this shit is filtering out of our society- lord knows its taking ages though. and as for racism – many indians are racist pigs! you can justify being a racist as much as you can justify the urge to rape six year old girls. racist bastards i tell you. but then again – Ghandi was racist – anyone wanna dispute me- look it up yourself -(1) The Collected Works of Mahatma Gandhi, Ahmedabad, 1963, Volume II p. 74
i always maintain that my only link to my mother land is my yearning to sleep with ashwarya rai
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slms..
i kno this is ur little cathartic vent session but i gotta hear more..
i want to kno wat u identify as the caste system? do u mean social and financial status discrimination or that based on so-called language difference perhaps?
it is true that cosmopolitan joZi doesnt have space for close-minded individual issues and those who have their racists attitudes have to let it rot inside themselves, but unfortunately there are pockets of society/ small town mentalities if u like.. that we have to sometimes find ourselves in the middle of :(
..abrasive and teeth-grating as they are.. i agree with ur frustration. ppl show no remorse for their obvious and evidently non-rational racist attitudes and in the same breath preach spirituality and good muslim living. its quite sickening, really. but now the question isss.. do we have to put up with this in silence? im sure that some of ur sarcastic replies wash over the heads of those theyre intended to pierce :(
on the issue of racism – i think its important to realise also that in some cases, like with some of the older generations, they’ve grown up in a country which was very conscious of racial differences and class differences.
i’m not saying “blame Apartheid” for all the racism that exists – but i’m saying, in my opinion, it certainly does play a role in the attitudes they have towards other races – and maybe that even extends to their own internal differences, like what “type” of Indian u are, etc.
u’ve gotta realise that when u grow up in an environment that is racially polarised, its bound to have an effect. now, u get older people these days, 50, 60, 70 years old – who have always had this kinda discrimination in their lives. its only the last 15 or so years that SA has changed politically. but that doesn’t change the 40 years they had as children, then adults, living in a racially-aware country.
i’m not saying we must just accept racism. i’m saying try 2 understand where some people are coming from – before losing patience with them. a lot of times, racism is just down to habit – habit they’ve had their whole lives, growing up in the abovementioned conditions.
if i were to guess your age, i’d say you’ve had probably half your life before th 94 elections; and half of it after.
that means you’ve had your teenage years in the time where SA was publically all about promoting a “rainbow nation”, “national unity”, Mandela, peace…all those anti-racist things.
for those younger than us, they haven’t even had any time living in a government-sanctioned racist state.
my point there is that i think that over time – with each generation, as they grow up and live in a more mixed country, racism will slowly fade.
it may be very very slow – but that original racism that our parents, grandparents and previous generations had – the factors of their time are no longer here today.
so, my hope is that in time it will fade away.
unfortunately, the country isn’t perfect – and there could be new types of race-related issues coming up; like affirmative action, BEE, the new elites, etc. as long as political and economic power is in some way structured along racial lines – there’s always going to be discrimination along those same racial lines.
anyway, to end off – we, as this current generation that are, quite soon, going to be the leaders of the country – we have the opportunity to look into ourselves and try to remove our own prejudices; and then set the example for our younger brothers, sisters, cousins, nephews and nieces; etc.
disregarding the challenge put forward by MJ – i think it was Ghandi who said, “be the change you want to see”.
sure, you can complain about these things and explode from time to time (in a safe way, of course ;) – but hopefully you’ll take something good out of it, something constructive for your own future. and our individual futures, when put together, is the future of this country. so its up to us to do what we think will be for the good of our country’s future. as Muslims, we have a great opportunity to show the beauty of Islam. but to do that, we need to try to make our own character Islam. we need to try to live by Islam not only in our outward actions, but in our inward thoughts too.
I agree, I share your take on durban, it is the most segregated, degenerate part of the country. I nearly took a job there, fortunatetly another path opened up. The Indian society has clearly defined class system, based on where you live and tribalism, how boring. Jozi has it too but it is not ingrained,i’d like to think we have more of meritocrasy up here.
The whiteys in durban have this old rhodesian mentility, very old fashion Anglo Saxon Colonialism when dealing with the other race groups, so they can join us in hell, for being bigots
bunny sux, akhals anytime.z
I agree with all that. Thing is, some of the people who are the racist idiots are younger than me… which is even scarier. They had no qualms referring to “how dirty kaffirs are” as a conversation topic. It may be the older generation, but that sort of shit filters through.
Everybody’s tending toward the lighter skinned of our kind. Fuck that. It’s a mindset, habit or not. Islam is clear and was clearfrom the beginning. Whether they grew up with it or not, they should be able to see that Islam doesn’t allow it and as Muslims we should be against it… I don’t care what period of time or in what context you grew up in. Get a brain.
Note… this is still a vent at the same idiots… I’m not digging at any o the commenters :P
slms.
M.
mak, indians r the same be it in dbn or jhb. ok- durbanites are ten times worse. my two younger sisters & i always said we wont marry indian guys, but all ethncic groupings hav their own issues. u just have to b lucky to find those that r different. im findin it hard to cope with the sheer superficiality of our lives after returnin from cairo. altho it wasnt egypt- it was the ppl i met- amazin ppl Subhanallah.
mak, i think its time 4 u to get back to jhb. tell the girls u r married- ur wife is the only person who has the right to kno bout ur entire life.
Dude I get your view to vent and honestly BB and Cheryl Crow said it a change would do you good! but yeah look I know where you coming from, one side of my family exactly like that and I’ve too come up with some awesome come back lines. But in the end and dont take this the wrong way…but I treat them like an animal, all of them just one big animal. they are the way they are, you cant hate your dog for running up2 u, when you get home or be suprised and hate him when you have visitors over and he begins sucking his B*LLS. he is just an animal got to accept him for what he is. and with family you stuck with animal so cant let him go.
You know what I mean? You just accept them they way they are, love them for it, and when they irritate you take a step back and realize they just they way they are, you not going to change them and really speaking everyone has them. So no matter where you go, you stuck with them. granted bein in dbn you deal with them more often. so next time they come running up2u mouths wagging and barking with happiness to see you. just smile scratch them a little behind the ear and go on your way :-)
Yes Moe… But… this dog’s a Rottweiler which bites… and we normally put those down :P Besides… as you said in our convo… the dogs look better :)
hahaha.
M.
lol..i read this post very late.
but hey, i live in a town filled with the nasty sort of dbn people (not the nice ones unfortunately..seems the rejects from kzn come here)…and yes, i feel the same.
they have the same mentality here and yes MaK, i sympathise with you in every way because i understand what you mean! ppl suck, and that’s why i consider JHB to be my home even though i’ve lived in this plaas my whole life. i’m sick of people’s mentalities here as well.
there are very few jhb families here and they don’t think like them and they eventually leave because they get naar as well.
they call me rude, b*tch, but i don’t care. they’re forever in my business and i would like to tell them to kindly foad!
i’ve just read what i’ve said…and man..i sound angry!
but you know, some people interfere too much…and there’s only SO much you can take.
Hello! great idea of color of this siyte!
I say fuck this duban fucks they come to Joburg and under cut salarys
to get jobs and once they get one they bring the whole family down.
Im from Joburg and we got eveything here exept the sea.
I am not a racist but these durbanites iratate me be making fake conversastions to get in to your pokets
Hi All,
Reading this blog makes me realise how stupid you guys & gals are for complaining about Durbs.
As you gather by now, I am from Durbs.
We Charo’s originated from India Remember!
We also first landed in Durban. So as one of you commented that Durbanites go to JHB & undercut salaries, Think about it where did you or your ancestors land, in JHB or Cape Town. Where are your families from? Give them that respect?
All of you guys should go to India and experience the beauty and values of your religion. Then you will realise how much you are missing out on. I bet you guys would not manage to go back to India and make a life there if this is how much you bicker about Durban.
One day you or your kids or grand kids will have to go back to India, the greatest land in the world. Just remember Durban was the stepping stone to where you are now. Don’t ever curse that stone, cos you will never find your way home again, EVER!!!
Proud to Be Indian & from Durban!!!
F**K the rest of you who Can’t See It
BTW: Dont complain of people from Durban, Its your own families & blood.
Blood is thicker than water!
Muhammed,
Awesome observation my boy!
Im in Durbz almost every weekend, and the whole city is consumed with self conscious pre-madonna’s and Jocks….Durbz has loads of potential though, may if we all just traet each other as equals and not carry on like we’re better than every1 else
Oh well….anyways…..
People need to lighten up!
Ciao 4 now
And good luck!
Anisa
Hey Bro,
Read your post. Just would like to make a few points
1. By Ranting it shows they affect you, people like that should have no bearing on your life.
2. Ranting is fine, but better yet is to ask yourself ‘How is this changing things’ so… the next step is try and change things… change perceptions
Other then that… keep blogging bro ;)
I have been reading and to be honest to vent is one thing , but you MF need a dent , im a durban boy living here in jozie, its nto abt swearing or being aggressive abt the situation, its the ignorrance you show , complain like little bitches here,
lets see
cost of living in durban is a luxury compared to here, u complain abt people asking you a million questions , maybe it because they care , cause when ur ass in a box , who is sitting there crying your fucken blog buddies, i dont think so,
family is foundation we walk on ,
dont talk abt india , u aint from there, yes our grandfathers were but they in heaven now , I say people who look and concentrate on the negative aspect of any situation should dhut the fuck and stay at home ,
durban may a plcae stuck in time BUT ITS THE BEST FUCKEN TIME YOU WILL EVER HAVE,
i have travelled and home for me is not fucken durban or joburg, its were u have security and comfort and love basically were your mother lives that is home .
So in conclusion dont bring durban down yes it has it politics and crap, but its everywhere you just not there to acknowledge it ,
Peace
A true believer has spoken ,
I’ll have to disagree with you there… I’m in Durban, It’s not the best Time I’ve had. I agree that family and security and all that jazz is important… but not when they set up shop in your private life so that every fart gets wind in Phoenix, Chatsworth and Sparks Road.
Please get your head out your ass. If you love Durbs so much, you shouldn’t have left.
Thanx for that Muhammad, But if you had read carefully i was not saying that I personally love durban but i dont understand why complain abt an issue you can resolve , so u should of stated IF YOU HATE DURBS SO MUCH THEN LEAVE.. however I have realised why u dont have a good time there , U must be from the shit area..no offense please , but i have pulled my head out of my ass and realised that you may not be as motivated as others to make a personal difference to your life but rather join the rest og these wankers and complain like bitches, agree thanks
Thanks for clarification.
Peace.
M.
Complains . . . Complains . . . Complaints. Thats all you bitchin Pesimists do.
Do’nt blame us Durbanites if your livin in a shittty area. The only reason why you are asked why or where you were is cos people care about you and it was very well put by Flint. Sound to me, by ” your ” responses, that Indians are a personal punching bags for you assholes. Well your hate only fules Racisim,
Hate and Animocity. Well that’s only an oppinion your winey bitches are entittled to. There’s no need for us durbanites to get upset over it. If yall do’nt like the place, GET THE FUCK OUT ! In one of the other responses yall talk about “Upmarket People” and “A friendly convo is a way to get into your pocket” , you people are talking about the caste and classism, dont you think this is in direct contradiction. Alot of people in durban are of the poorer side and its people like you JBH’s think yall are all that come with your low oppinion and condicending Attitudes.
Wht people and Blk have a low oppinion of us Indians cos of people like you cos they say an indian will talk to you sweetly and stab you when you turn around. I can just imagine you fake ass “Indian” , Motherfucking Coconuts talkin to your wht and blk friends and bitchin and gosipin how much you are not indian and how much yall hate other indians. Yall are the big fucking jokes in their eyes cos they laugh at you assholes with their other blk and wht friends. Trust me, i have wittnessed it.
Its Sad
Don’t Try To Change Others If You Have Flaw Within.
@Durbanite: Ever heard the phrase “Profanity is the crutch of the inarticulate.” well there you are. Please don’t pretend you know me, I speak from experience and when I wrote the post it was from the heart. You missed the quote in the post “I know I’m racist, but that’s the way it is…” I’m racist? I’m a coconut? The profanity in your post only shows your alignment to white hate and black hip-hop culture. Nothing “indian” about you my friend. No non-violent resistance.
In terms of getting out of here… I’m trying, believe me. Nothing would make me happier. The people I have mentioned can fester in their own shit. Btw… I only hang out with indians, most of them feel the same way I do about the Indian community in Durban. Most of them want to leave Durban and go to JHB so ppl would mind their own business.
I’m sorry if it hurts you but I call it like I see it. Some of these people just need to mind their own business,and unfortunately you seem like one of them. You shouldn’t judge others but try to understand. I’ve tried understanding these people… and it’s made the situation worse, because the truth IS that ugly.
i wasnt responding to you, if the cap fits, wear it. if wat i said hit a nerve for you, well i cant help it. every society has its downfalls. if you cant fit in with your own kind, go ahead and be a coconut. wats stopping you from leaving anyway. i dont hate other races, i just choose to hang out with my own kind. im not part of this “hip hop” culture you are referring to. believe me that other indians have pissed me off plenty of time and so have white people and nlack people. the thing is you shouldnt hate humanity so much that you generalise just because of a few people. Swearing , by the way, is not part of my everyday vocabulary, i just swear when im irritated. you dont know me boy so dont judge me and say im not indian and not part of a non-violent resistance. i walk away from conflictand try to resolve it when its between others.
My only point is that: the black community is a very close knitt society, white people also keep their money running in their circle. and we indians tend to back-bite like articals of this nature.
its only one thing that devides us indians
RELIGION , if you think about it carefully you might see it clearly.
id just like to say that while we fight amongst out selfs, back-bite, bitch ,moan, groan and so concerned with how shitty our lives are and how shitty other people are, how much of a dent the other person put in, our oh so fragile, ego’s people are dieing senslessly. murders are being committed , as i type there’s one happening amongst other heinous acts of injustice and , yet , here we are bickering about an issue so trivial. its a crying shame.
i pitty you all. i wont say any more cos i dont think that yall will even grasp the concept of tollerance humillity and so this paltry argument will go on and on and on and on and . . . . . .
see i dint swear . . . hmm . . . maybe sum vulgar terms . . . . but legit words non the less
While we fight amongst ourselves , behold, the world dies. Tollerance, Faith, Humility and Honour, Traits this generation lacks.
A crying shame.
If we all hate each other then who will there be for us to love. Dont hate humanity just cos of a few individuals.
You people have alot of hate in yourselves.
Vent? More like a fit of an imature child aka adolecent.
Yall are no beter that those yall are Bitchin about. Bitchin and moaning is a white Trait. Go ahead, there aint anyone stoping yall, wollow in your hate. all i hear are voices of litle children crying cos they are home sick and mis their momies and daddys
@Durbanite: okay. cool.
Of course you will run into the odd dodgeball here and there, but dont write the whole city off.
Living in jozi for 5 years now. Felt the same way about Durbs when I left. Got an offer to go back down. Didnt even hand in my resignation yet but my bags r already packed.
Dont let the small minded people get to you, cos theres some real people out there. Loving, curteous, fun, generous, caring, people. Old family and friends.
Durbs is a great place…but only if you have people you love down there. The beach alone wont get you far.
@O.L: I totally agree… and I have to mention that the beauty of the place and the convenience is unparalleled. Unfortunately the feelings which spawned the post are real and the small-minded people were everywhere and in my face most of the time. I have managed to distance myself somewhat. I do hope however that people and the society which breeds these people will change.
am frm india.. neva knew theres so much bickering amongsst u guys.
all i can say is we have our choices… so y dnt u navigate urself to the prefered choices..and let anyone cause u that kind of discomfort.. finda way to to ur own comfort
well i know india is not much different either but i can say this much..its changing rapidly..becoming more liberal… / in every society theres good, bad n the ugly.. we have a way to choose hw we can live with each choices.. no point in brooding..
always b positive in ur outlook…
@LAX: Great Stuff. I fully agree with you. The cathartic nature of the blog post was merely because I’d had enough.
Take a look at this you whining old bag.
http://www.freewebs.com/charous/thecharoulife.htm
Different strokes for different folks and all that. You think Joburg is so perfect? Then bugger off there, don’t feel forced to live in Durban and whine about it. Anyway, you should try living in the UK sometime. Nobody really cares much for others here, and you would be lucky to find people who are interested in anything about you at all. That’ll teach you.
@Durban Dhania: Nice site. Joburg Rocks. GP4Eva!!!!
hopefully Australia will sell yellowcake to pakistan as well as india. Then hopefully the two countries will have a nuclear war and every single person in both countries dies.
@uncle king face: That’s just fuckin’ sick dude.
Do u guys no any indian girl who wouldn’t mind dating a black dude. I once had a thing with an indian chick but it only went as far as one kiss cause she was getting married. And I dont no if its unfortunate coincidence but all the indian girls I meetup with are either getting married or have some parental obligations with some indian dude. Honestly indian girls are killer hot and I would nt wanna die without dating one,, PLEASE HELP
@Scrutinizer: Sorry Dude, No Dice. Word of advice though, beneath the beautiful exterior Indian chicks carry a LOT of Baggage… and I won’t even go into dealing with the family after that… and of course the community whisperings of gossip which will flow from phoenix to Chatsworth to Lenz :P Heads up.
I LOVE DURBAN!!!!!!!!!!
Oh go n fuck off. Stop complaining. When r u fuckung indians gona start standing together as 1 freaking community. The rest of the races are laughing at you guys………..wat a joke!!!!!! It don’t matter if u r frm Durban or Jozi u make the pati were u at……….thats if you know how to.
That’s very passionate of you Tash. I like the beach, that’s it. The people can go n fuck themselves.
You lot hating Durban are F**ked up …. seriously, how can you live in a city and hate it so much when the door is always open to leave.
I’m from Dbn and have been living in many different cities over the past 10 years and I have a similar experience wherever I go. There are people I meet that I like, dislike and others I feel indifferent about. None of these things change the way I feel about the city though – because I’m generally a pretty happy, well-balanced optimistic type that doesn’t let other people piss on my party – the haters on here are clearly the type that let others piss on their party and will hate anywhere they live that’s not the place they grew up in.
Durban rocks – awesome weather, beaches, nightlife and of course Teazers…the best strip club in South Africa….albeit in an odd location.
Oh dear, if you don’t like Durban or Indians then piss off, stop whining like an old bitch. I don’t see anything wrong with Durban, its 100 times better than JHB. In JHB there is no sense of a “community” , its for each their own. In Durabn we know everybody and everybody knows us, there is a sense on belonging. I just laughed when i read the post by bb -aisha, LMAO always said we wont marry indian guys , omg, who will you marry then? Some guy with no culture, some white dude who has no culture? No identity? Grow the fuck up
well i think all people are racist, especially coloureds. they r the worst mada fuckin racist assholes
Wow… This is quite a bit for so early in the morning but I just had to say something. To all of you: What is your point? we live where we live by choice and if we arent happy about we are the only ones with the power to alter that. I was born in Durban and grew up in Laudium and I can personally assure you that people up here arent as beautiful on the inside as we’d like to imagine. As a child I was the victim of bullying due to the fact that my accent was different? And then I ask you, what does a child know of these things? My life then got a whole lot rosier when I was placed in an all white school and had to endure the very same thing once again and thats when I snapped! People are always gonna judge you and look at you based on stereotypes!
As for the whole Durban Indiand VS Johannesburg Indian. You guys are the ones who allow this to go further by substantiating what the general stereotype describes. hate to break it to all the Johannesburg indians, but last time i checked there was no sea port in JNB where the ship docked and your forefathers disembarked so that means you guys too come from Durban.
Stop with all the bitching and to the guy who started this entire thread, M, get over it guy. If you hate Durban then leave? If you find yourself incircumstance which do not allow you to leave, then try to puch all the negativity out the window, each day is a gift and you should cherish it by being happy and not by looking down at everything life hands you.
Growing up in Laudium I was brainwashed into hating everything from Durban from the people to the accent to the weather. I moved back there about 4 years ago and you’d be amazed to know that people welcomed me and treated me as though I’d always lived there? yet that was hardly the welcome one wouold expect here in JNB? It was an awesome 3 years in Durban and I’ll always cherish the memories but DBN is filled with more of a holiday vibe than a hard hitting money making attitude which is what I believe I needed to get somewhere in life, hence me moving back to JNB.
Sure theres more stuff to do in JNB, but Durban is a beautifull place and please lets not judge people by their circumstances, rich or poor. I can assure you that if you live abroad for a while you’ll notice that accents and dialects are only natural so please quit with the whole discrimination guys, we are South Africans of Indian descent so please stop dissing each other and fueling futile fueds that nobody will ever benefit from, lets embrace our differences and respect each other for it.
This is coming from someone whose lived on both sides of the fence and who has exposure to various religious cultures and backgrounds.
Salaams, Namasthe and take care brothers and sisters
Ram
I’m an ex-Durbanite living in New Zealand and miss Durban heaps.
I *love*hate* this post. Relate too intensely on so many levels. -sigh-
@salma I know exactly what you mean…
I would like make some obsevations re- the above-mentioned topic/dialogue. The responses started to say the same things so I skipped a lot of responses. I believe that each of you are entitled to and have justified comments. Reading bet the lines one can see that all have the same experiences – Fed up with life in Durban – Many of the people in Durbs lead the same type of lifestyles – been like this for the past 40 years – close to my age – not much changed – bulk of the community not highly educated – like myself – the few with money dictate the lifestyle – thares always competition – where you live – what you drive – what you wear, etc. This is not unique to Indian comm. but across all racial groups.
There are thousands of Durbanites that dont fit the Indian from Durban stereo-types – we can identify with it, though – but my best lessons in life were growing up there – Durban is messy, crowded, high crime. Yes the people get in your face, business, etc. Its up to you not to allow them. People will not stick their nose in your business if you create certain barriers to prevent it. When invited to a party, dinner, etc. Make it a point of staying for a limited amount of time so that you dont get caught up in the gossip, etc. worked for me. You yourself should not stick your nose in other peoples affairs. It not where you live that matters but how you live and conduct yourself. By the way I love going to Durbs – spend time with people that do matter to me – Its all about the things that matter the most to me – Family.
@DBN-JNB-DBN and back to JNB again, well said.
I came across this blog by chance as I was looking up the origin of Durban Indians. I’m a Zulu working with Indians in the office and oh my word…GOSSIP. I always believe in giving people the shadow of a doubt and trying to understand before judging, which is why I decided to learn more about the origin of the race in order to gain a bit more understanding of their culture.
I’m not saying it’s the only race that gossips, slanders, back-bites and so forth in the workplace; for me though they are extremely over the top. Some of them don’t welcome you easily if you are not one of their own; they put you down if they feel intimidated by you. One thing I’ve learnt from working with the Indian race (at more than one company) is that dare you not be “better” then them in any way or they will make your life a living hell. I’m not saying each and every Indian person is that way – I’ve met wonderful people within the race, unfortunately most of them I find to be extremely cold, racist and pretentious.
I love Durban with all my heart and have turned down a couple of JHB offers ‘coz no place is better than Durbs. I’m not proud to say I’m now thinking of moving to JHB as I’ve been told there are few Indians up there – IM NOT PROUD OF THOSE THOUGHTS, but that’s how bad and intolerable I find the Durban workplace. Yes, you will always have those kind of people in the workplace…but Durban seems to hoard bigots who try by all means to get to the top by putting others down and ensuring you don’t progress. I stand to be corrected of course but I’m really fed up of this.
I totally understand what you mean. It gets worse when you are soaked within it. It’s like drowning. Hence this post. More power to you, I hope you;re successful in JHB :)
HAPPY NEW YEAR ………
When people are close minded and behave in such ways….I don’t let it get to me…my motto…people that don’t know any better can’t do any better…so they shall remain ignorant.
Best thing to do is kindly tell them to F off :))))