Comments on: Marriage http://karim.co.za/blog/2006/11/29/marriage/ A Double Espresso in a Decaf World... Mon, 30 Jan 2012 15:54:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Muhammad http://karim.co.za/blog/2006/11/29/marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-38 Muhammad Sat, 02 Dec 2006 10:10:35 +0000 http://karim.co.za/blog/2006/11/29/marriage/#comment-38 Well, my only advice would be the same wisdom as passed down by Nabi (SAW). Look for Piety. A partner who is open-minded, Islamically grounded and forgiving. That is all you need. Beauty means shit, believe me, besides it's in the eye of the beholder. What you do notice after you get married is that how the person looks is the LEAST most important aspect of the relationship. So, in the end... my advice to everyone... look for the simple,powerful things which last in a person. Piety is absolutely key. wslm, M. Well, my only advice would be the same wisdom as passed down by Nabi (SAW). Look for Piety. A partner who is open-minded, Islamically grounded and forgiving. That is all you need. Beauty means shit, believe me, besides it’s in the eye of the beholder. What you do notice after you get married is that how the person looks is the LEAST most important aspect of the relationship.

So, in the end… my advice to everyone… look for the simple,powerful things which last in a person. Piety is absolutely key.

wslm,

M.

]]> By: Dreamlife http://karim.co.za/blog/2006/11/29/marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Dreamlife Fri, 01 Dec 2006 09:26:57 +0000 http://karim.co.za/blog/2006/11/29/marriage/#comment-36 ok, so now that you're "in it" and you 'know' - what would you advise those who *want* to get married to look for in the prospective partner? like you say, before marriage, its all theory - thoughts, ideas, recommendations, opinions - either other people's or our own. so now, you've had some time of that real-life 'practical' experience; and you've seen whether the things you thought BEFORE marriage were close to reality (in your situation at least). share with us then, please, your wisdom on what it is a single person should be looking for. after all, it is maybe the biggest decision of a person's life... ok, so now that you’re “in it” and you ‘know’ – what would you advise those who *want* to get married to look for in the prospective partner?

like you say, before marriage, its all theory – thoughts, ideas, recommendations, opinions – either other people’s or our own.

so now, you’ve had some time of that real-life ‘practical’ experience; and you’ve seen whether the things you thought BEFORE marriage were close to reality (in your situation at least).

share with us then, please, your wisdom on what it is a single person should be looking for.

after all, it is maybe the biggest decision of a person’s life…

]]> By: kimya http://karim.co.za/blog/2006/11/29/marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-34 kimya Wed, 29 Nov 2006 14:47:02 +0000 http://karim.co.za/blog/2006/11/29/marriage/#comment-34 uni years were the best years of my life! :) taking from that, if it was a simple correlation, the test of marriage might not be so difficult after all.. but the thing that makes one stoically phobic ( i speak of those of us who choose the fence for now) is the loss of individuality.. most indian males prefer and require complete surrender. its a bitter pill to have to swallow (or not) when one is offered no alternatives. im rambling *sigh* standing on the edge of the cliff S uni years were the best years of my life! :)
taking from that, if it was a simple correlation, the test of marriage might not be so difficult after all.. but the thing that makes one stoically phobic ( i speak of those of us who choose the fence for now) is the loss of individuality.. most indian males prefer and require complete surrender. its a bitter pill to have to swallow (or not) when one is offered no alternatives. im rambling *sigh*

standing on the edge of the cliff

S

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